Showing posts with label Encouragement. Show all posts
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Friday, April 22, 2011

What A Shoplifter Taught Me About Easter

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It had started off as just an ordinary trip to the grocery store—and I wanted to get in and out as quickly as possible. (Btw, this was my life B. C. – Before Coupons. I made lists back then, but I certainly didn’t check them twice. In fact, I didn’t even try to stick very closely to a budget!)

Before finishing up, I had paused to look for a light bulb for my refrigerator. Surprised that my grocery store would carry such a dizzying array of bulbs, and wondering if a refrigerator light bulb would be labeled as such, I was just about to give up when I noticed a guy standing next to me. He was a real “he-man" type who seemed like he might know about such things, so I asked him.

He was agitated by my question, and I realized that I must have startled him. I certainly didn’t mean to. This is the South, and most of us are used to strangers striking up random conversations at the grocery store. But this guy was nervous and jumpy, and he was wearing a long-sleeved hoodie on a very warm spring day. He assured me that he had no idea which bulb I needed. Just then, I spotted one labeled appliance bulb. “That’s it,” I noted, then turned around to thank him anyway. (Remember, this is the South. We say thanks when people do help us, and even when they don’t!) But as I did, a steak fell out of the back of his hoodie.
Yes.
A steak.
A steak on a foam tray, shrink-wrapped, straight from the meat department.

There were at least three other people standing in the aisle when this happened. Simultaneously, each person turned her head. No one wanted to deal with it. I mean, really, how inconvenient. “Minister to shoplifters” was not on my to-do list that day, nor, it would seem, anyone else’s.

As I wheeled my cart around and scampered off toward the dairy section, I felt embarrassed for him and ashamed for myself. I didn’t want to tell the management on him, but I certainly didn’t want to approach him, either. “What would Jesus do?” I wondered. But I didn’t wonder for very long. In my lifestyle of haste, I went on about my shopping, forgetting all about the guy with the steak falling out of his pullover. I finished up and paid for my purchases, making sure to use my handy-dandy shopper’s discount card, but not once thanking God for His provision and the blessing of a full shopping cart. When the cashier gave me the total, I thought it sounded a little high, but I didn’t worry about it. Sometimes my math is off, and besides, I was ready to go.

After piling the groceries into my van, I headed home. At the first stoplight, however, my curiosity got the best of me, and I pulled out my receipt to check it. Aha! The discount from my shopper's card wasn't showing up! I had missed out on nearly $10 worth of savings!

I considered what I should do. Should I call the store when I got home? Should I turn around and go back now? Should I forget about it? Into my whirlwind of reasoning came these quiet words from the Lord, straight to my heart: You just bought a steak.


“Oh, Lord,” I whispered, “I had already forgotten about that guy. But You didn’t.” I drove home stunned, and for the next several days, I thought about that man, the steak, and the coupon card that the clerk scanned but that never showed up on my receipt. I figured that the $9.27 that I didn’t save was the exact price of that stolen steak. And I was so thankful to know a God who loves so much that He cared enough to pay the price for a shoplifter’s dinner.

As we celebrate Easter this weekend, I realize there are scores of people who live unaware of the fact that God has paid the price for their sins through His Son, Jesus. Jesus willingly gave His life in order for people to enjoy right relationship with God the Father. We were created to be in fellowship with God, to love Him and live in His presence. But a holy God cannot look upon our sin or allow sin in His Heaven—not unless the sin has been covered by the blood of His son. That’s the price of our sin: death. The Apostle Peter explained it this way: For you know that God paid a ransom to save you from the empty life you inherited from your ancestors. And the ransom He paid was not mere gold or silver. He paid for you with the precious lifeblood of Christ, the sinless, spotless Lamb of God (1 Peter 1:18-19). Jesus Christ is our gift from God. He conquered death in order that we could have eternal life.

What would Jesus do if He saw a steak fall out the back of somebody’s hoodie? Well, I believe He would pay for that steak, not secretly, but openly; not accidentally, but intentionally. He would pursue a relationship with that person and invite Him to share in His Father’s riches.

What about you? Are you trying to hide your sins in the back of your shirt? Despite your best efforts, they are falling out. While other people may turn their heads at the sight of them, Jesus sees your sins and loves you anyway. He’s already paid the price for your past, and He invites you to accept His plans for your future. You are paid for and planned for.

Have a blessed Easter!


Rebecca
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Monday, April 4, 2011

Have You Lost Touch with Your Friends? Five Friendship Fixes

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How long has it been since you’ve gotten together with your girlfriends--just for mom time??

As a mom, time is in short supply and responsibilities abound. Investing time in relationships can seem almost frivolous when it comes at the premium price of time spent away from our families. But deep, authentic, Christ-centered friendships are blessings from God.

Through our friendships, we bear one another’s burdens.
We laugh with each other.
Make no mistake: True friendships are not cheap. They cost time and emotional resources. In return, the deep life connections that link you with other women will encourage you in your mothering, enabling you to be the best mom you can be.

In this season of mothering, do you feel like you’ve lost touch with your friends? Try one of these five fixes to reconnect.

  1. Plan a girls’ night. Leave the dads in charge and go out for the evening just to talk. Find a restaurant that doesn’t mind if you monopolize a table, and be sure to leave your server a good tip!
  2. Teleconference. Coordinate your children’s naptimes and then talk via telephone while the kids sleep. If you think you need to be doing something more constructive, fold the laundry or iron while you chat.
  3. Care package. When my friend Sherry moved away, I missed her terribly. Knowing she was struggling to adjust to her new surroundings, I sent a care package that included some of her favorite things. I gained as much joy putting it together as she did in receiving it.
  4. A weekend retreat. Wouldn’t it be fun to take a weekend trip with some friends you haven’t seen in a while? Keep it simple when you make sure travel time is under three hours.
  5. Take a class. With a friend, sign up for a weekly class offered by your church or local community college. You’ll enjoy a scheduled, girl-time each week, and who knows? You might make some new friends, too!

Rebecca
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Tuesday, March 22, 2011

Is Joy On Your To-Do List?

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Just this morning I saw a commercial for a luscious piece of chocolate that made a big promise to anyone who samples its velvety smoothness: joy.

Joy from a piece of chocolate? Happiness, maybe. But joy? I don't think so.

Bonnie St. John
Joy is very different from happiness or pleasure. Happiness is more about how my overall life is going. It’s experiencing sensations that come from the outside in,” explains Bonnie St. John, author of Live Your Joy. “Joy comes from the inside out: hope, confidence, friendship, and faith. Joy, or the lack of it, permeates every aspect of your life.”

Unfortunately, she is quick to point out that some Christians believe that since joy is a gift from God, Christians must be always joyful. “Christians can put unrealistic expectations on each other, such as, If you’re not joyful there is something wrong with your relationship with God. But I’m not always happy. I have ups and downs, and I struggle.”

Everybody does! To illustrate, Bonnie likens the gift of joy to a garden. “God gives us joy, but we have to weed out our bad attitudes, our bad habits. There are personal behaviors that get in the way of God’s joy.”
According to Bonnie, the number one joy stealer for parents is being too busy. “When my daughter Darcy was little, I was so blessed that I could work from home,” she notes. “I got her ready for a half day of kindergarten, and then tried to fit in eight hours of work while she was gone. It is really stressful trying to work at home with a kid running around. By bedtime, you are so tired yourself. I was running so fast that I couldn’t enjoy it.”

Like many moms, Bonnie relies on her “to do” list. “My lists have lists,” she jokes.

In order to appreciate and locate true joy in life, Bonnie advises parents to make room for it on their own to do lists. “I live by my ‘to do’ list, so let me put on my ‘to do’ list some ‘to feel.’ I will put on the list five minutes to pray, to feel gratitude, or to sit still and feel God’s love,” she says. Bonnie believes that many parents are guilty of presenting God with a “to do” list when they pray. Instead, be diligent to enter His gates with thanksgiving! Compose your body and your mind to recognize His loving Hand and faithful providence. Think about how much He loves you. There is great joy in that.

“Problems grab you by the throat. Problems make time for themselves,” Bonnie notes. “Joy doesn’t. Joy gives up and goes away. If you don’t make time for joy, it’s gone.”

"Strong women don't give God a to-do list. They ask God for a to-do list." ~Bonnie St. John

Want more?
Read more about Bonnie St. John HERE.
Read Bonnie's famous Starbucks coffee cup quote HERE.
Visit Bonnie's official website HERE.

Rebecca
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Tuesday, March 15, 2011

If You Know Who You Are, You Can Teach Her Who She Is

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When it comes to other women, do you consider yourself inclusive or exclusive?

When my friend Dianne moved to a new community, she felt frustrated after an attempt to connect with a local moms’ group. “It was like cheerleader tryouts all over again,” she mused. I knew exactly what she meant. My mind returned to the spring of my sixth grade year, when cheerleader tryouts were held at my middle school. It seemed like everyone except me had swingy hair, a perfect complexion, and athletic coordination. I felt out of place and unsure of myself. I knew from one glance at the competition that I would never make the cut.

Like Dianne, I’ve continued to experience situations as an adult in which those feelings of insecurity and inferiority resurface. I still have bad hair days and the occasional zit, causing a preoccupation with the trivial. Walking into a room full of people I’ve never met remains somewhat unnerving. There are times when I still find myself overly concerned with what others think: friends, colleagues, even complete strangers.

Did I smile big enough?
Keep my arms straight enough?
Jump high enough?

However, something has happened that has made a huge difference in my life. I’ve learned what God has to say about me, and I’ve accepted it. It doesn’t matter how I feel about me or what other people think. I believe Him! God says:

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  • I am fearfully and wonderfully made, whether or not I can do a cartwheel (Psalm 139:14).
  • I am chosen of God, holy and dearly loved, whether or not I am chosen by a panel of judges (Colossians 3:12).
  • I am a child of God, and I look like my Father, whether or not I’m having a good hair day (I John 3:1, 2).
  • I am accepted by God because of my faith in Jesus Christ, whether or not I am accepted by other people ( Galatians 2:16).

Now, just imagine a world where we as women believed this--stood on it!--walked it, breathed it, lived it. And then imagine that we taught our daughters to do the same. :)
Are you setting an example today that includes others? Or are you still as clique-ish as you were in 6th grade? Or are you still believing you don't fit in, so you are reluctant to approach people and you hesitate in making new friends?

Hmmm.
Know who you are, because He says you are, and pass it on. She is depending on you to teach her to depend on Him.


Rebecca

Tuesday, March 8, 2011

Complaining and Comparing will Hinder Your Success

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"There are two things that will hinder any potential for success in life: complaining and comparison." ~James R. Moore

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These words were spoken by a former pastor of mine, the late Bro. Jimmy Moore. Bro. Jimmy said that in a sermon he preached at around the same time that my husband and I were making our decision to homeschool. The words pierced my heart, and I jotted them down immediately, then copied them onto a larger piece of paper when I got home. (In fact, I also remember writing that quote on handwriting paper, you know, the kind with solid lines and broken lines? I had my kids learn that quote too.) I kept that paper in the front of my homeschool notebook. Whenever I opened that notebook, Bro. Jimmy's quote was there to greet me.

As I stepped into homeschooling, I had to be reminded daily of the potential for disaster that was ever present in my words (complaining) and in my mind (comparing). And the truth is, this doesn't just apply to homeschooling. It applies in every area of my life. Whether it's my walk with God, homeschooling, parenting, writing, or just getting dressed in the morning, complaining and comparing will hinder my potential for success.

So how do I try to avoid some of this in my life?

A grateful heart. Pursuing a grateful heart is a biggie. When I'm tempted to complain, singing praise songs or just listing the things I'm thankful for is huge.

Re-focus. I also try to distract myself by focusing on the needs of others. I'm told of so many needs that I always have plenty to pray about. Redirecting my thoughts to petitioning the Lord on behalf of someone else gets the focus off me and puts it squarely where it should be: God and others.

Flee temptation. Here's an example: There are some blogs that I just cannot read. I admire the folks who write them, and I know that they are my sisters in Christ, but I just can't read them. It's like getting on an elevator with someone who has beautiful, long straight hair. It is seventh grade all over again. I know I'm going to compare rather than stand on who God says I am, so I just literally don't go there. :)

Pep talk. If you can talk yourself down, you can talk yourself back up again. Try the book of Ephesians if you want to know who you really are, and just sit down and read it over yourself. Truly, none of us who are in Christ have anything to complain about. He loves us each uniquely. Thank God, I have never heard Him say, Why can't you be more like her? He never compares us to each other, so why should we?


Rebecca
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Monday, March 7, 2011

Stuck in a Rut?

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Same old piles of laundry.
Same old kitchen sink.
Same old balance in the checkbook.
Same old number on the scale.
Same old, same old.

Sometimes life just settles into a rut. Unfortunately, the predictability of a routine can deposit a mom squarely into the mistaken mindset of control. Because we are so used to handling these daily duties, we overlook our need to tap into the power of Christ. Without Him, however, life has no real purpose. In the thick of our busy routines, we find ourselves asking that age-old question, Why am I here?

You are here, in this location. Look around. Where do you live? You might be a missionary, serving far away from your extended family and friends. You may have lived in the same zip code all your life. You may be a transplant, finding yourself in a new location and unfamiliar territory. Whatever your location, know that you are there to serve God and bring Him glory. He has a plan that was designed with you in mind. No other shoes can fill the spot where you are standing. You are here, in this very spot, to meet with God and connect others to Him.

You are here, in this generation. I was 15 when my beleaguered parents finally gave in to my pleas for a phone and had one installed in my room. I never considered that my kids would campaign just as passionately for phones that fit in their pockets--phones they do not even want to use for talking, but texting! LOL! Before I was born, God knew my generation would see some fascinating technological advances. He also knew there would be times when I would feel like I do not fit in! The truth is that I was born at exactly the right time, in exactly the right generation. Like me, you are here, at this time in the history of the world, to meet with God and to connect others to Him.

You are here, in this situation. What is going on in your life today? Are you ill? Is your heart burdened by a broken relationship? Are you feeling frustrated by rowdy and restless kids? In the midst of your circumstances, could you stop and consider that God knows where you are? He longs to reveal Himself in all the big and little things in your life. You are here: worried about a sick child, a lost job, or a depressed spouse, and God is longing for you to turn to Him for healing, provision, and comfort. You are here, in your life’s chaos, to meet with God and to connect others to Him.



Rebecca
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Friday, February 25, 2011

Weekly Wrap-Up: Rebuilding the Wall

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Ever have one of those weeks where you're not sure who's learning more: you or your kids?
David, my 16 yo, just finished reading through the book of Nehemiah for his Notgrass study. Nehemiah has been foundational for me over the past year or so. I read through portions of it in January of 2010 and combined the Scriptures with focused prayer for our children's department and our church in general as we were considering a building project. (For those of you new to my blog, my family serves the Lord in an inner city church where my husband serves bi-vocationally as the missions pastor.) Also last year, our pastor took us as a church through the entire book as we prayed corporately over several decisions. So, I love Nehemiah!

In the Notgrass study, David was reading Nehemiah as the Biblical parallel to our country's rebuilding after the war between the states. As I read through the book last year, I saw it clearly parallel the broken community and the hurting children where we serve. Let me share a portion from my prayer journal, written in January 2010:

Our building and our church kids look okay on the outside, but the inside of both structures has been neglected. And there are multiple reasons for that. ...Lord, You see the bad situation we are in--how the building is in disrepair and how the children are left to raise themselves.

Everybody pitched in to rebuild the wall, whether they were builders by trade or not. Whether it was their passion or not. Whether it was in their skill set or not. They saw the need, heard the call, and went to help.
This journal entry concluded with a desperate plea for the Lord to send workers to our children's department. And a year later, that's still my prayer!

Rebuilding, whether it is in fact a building, or a war-torn, divided country, or a life, takes time. And it takes people. People that may not be skilled or gifted, but just people who see that a job needs to be done and who are brave enough to work outside their comfort zone.

Does something around you need to be rebuilt? Perhaps from the ground up? Or maybe today you're in the middle of a repair. You might have internal damage to tend to that isn't so noticeable from the outside. Whatever you're working on, there is hope in the story of Nehemiah. I was reminded of that this week, and I pray you will be too!

Be sure to check out all this week's Wrap-Ups at Weird, Unsocialized Homeschoolers!

Rebecca
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Monday, February 7, 2011

Six Ways to Connect with Your Kids During A Long Winter

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With all the snow recently, airport travel was delayed and many passengers found themselves grounded from scheduled flights. While I'm sure there was a lot of complaining, it was easy to see why people had to wait. Storm patterns dictated that it was safer for planes to stay put. 

 
This winter, I think much of the country can identify with the feeling of being grounded--I know my kids and I can! We’re tired of being cooped up with colds and viruses, and most recently, flu. :( Stuck inside with long periods of inactivity is frustrating for everyone. Like a plane waiting to take off, the runway of winter stretches before me and for some reason, my flight to warm, sunny Springtime is delayed! After the third trip to the doctor's office, the third round of antibiotics, and another forecast of snow and ice, I’m ready to move to Florida! Like a grounded plane, however, I’ve got to understand that I’m staying put for a reason.
If you feel like winter has become an extended “time out,” you’ve got lots of company. This time of year, mothers often feel like prisoners in their homes. Dare you embrace this time of grounding and possibly even enjoy it? Try one or all of these six simple ways to grow and connect during the dark days of winter.
Bake bread. It’s incredible to show your children what a little bit of yeast can do! Tell the story of the Israelites' time of grounding in Egypt. Discuss how they had to skip adding the yeast when it was time to make their escape. How long will it take the bread to rise? Without the yeast, it stays grounded!

 
Limited use of computers, television, and electronic games. Now is the time to use these items, but be choosy. Make it family time, and play with your kids! When warm weather returns, you can ground these playthings and relegate them to a winter closet.

 
Board games and card games. It’s fun to make up your family’s own set of house rules and write them down. You can tailor many card games to your children’s ages. Make a chart and have a running tournament. Keep up with the winners, and cheer on the losers. (Another great game for the whole family is Pass the Pigs--so much fun!)

 
Play outside. Whenever weather and health permit, get some fresh air and playtime outdoors. Dress in layers and stay hydrated.

 
Swap up the chores. Give your kids something different to do. Housework is one way to stay active, too. Since you are in the house so much during these months, it needs to stay cleaner, especially when it comes to avoiding germs. (We worked hard over this past weekend cleaning things up, and the house stayed clean for around 47 minutes! Wow! :) )

 

 
Read together. Let's face it, you can have a zillion channels and still not find anything suitable for family viewing. Winter is a great time to begin a family story hour. Cuddle up in bed or on the couch and take turns reading some of the great classics aloud. Derek and I are still working our way through The Light and the Glory. We're almost finished, and it has been great! A wintry read-aloud for this time of year with younger ones is The Long Winter by Laura Ingalls Wilder. (Must haves for reading this book are hot cocoa and extra blankets! The winter in this book is truly LOONNGG and icy cold!)

 
And what else can you do when you're feeling grounded?
  • Study God’s Word.
  • Rest in His promises.
  • Ask God to use this time to expose His perspective of your life, relationships, and activities.
  • Remember who you are, where you came from, and where you want to go. If there is turbulence ahead, your spirit will be peaceful throughout the bumpy ride.
Rebecca
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Monday, January 24, 2011

Motherhood: The Journey Has No Shortcuts!

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A country road close to my house is a popular shortcut. I can shave five or six minutes off my travel time if I take it. Most of the drivers who opt for this route are in a rush. Unfortunately, they often consider this back road not only a time-saver but also a detour from safe driving. They aren’t worried about keeping the speed limit or staying on their side of the yellow line as they wind down this curvy lane. Recently, an approaching motorist crossed the yellow line and collided with my van. Thankfully, no one was hurt. However, since the wreck, I avoid that “shortcut.” I decided that saving those five minutes was not so important after all!

As a mother, I am often guilty of taking shortcuts that aren’t so short in the long run! Some could even be considered downright dangerous. Here are a few detours I've learned (for the most part!) to avoid:

Staying up late. How many times have you worked into the night in order to finish tasks, only to run behind schedule the next day? Most adults need seven to eight hours of sleep each night. Not getting enough sleep can alter your moods and personality. People who establish regular times for going to bed and getting up each day sleep better than those with erratic schedules. They are also more productive during their waking hours. You already know how much sleep you need. Establish a bedtime and stick to it.

Credit cards. Buying on credit may seem like a sunlit bypass to the life you want, but it is a road paved with deception. High interest rates, additional fees, and growing debt easily become a collision course. Ask God for a spirit of contentment with what you have, and develop a savings plan for large purchases.

Doing it all myself. While it may seem easier to let the kids play while I clean up the house, the truth is I am directing them away from valuable life skills. They may not do things the way I would. I’m sure I can do it faster, but this is one blinking light that cautions me to slow down and teach them today. Tomorrow will be here all too soon.

The Drive-Thru. The epitome of our culture’s microwaved lifestyle is the drive-thru window. We speed home, drive through the nearest burger joint, and eat in the car on the way. In doing this we not only avoid proper nutrition, but we also bypass important family time. This detour will only lead to a dead end.

The recommended route as you journey through motherhood? Oddly enough, the best way to begin each day is by putting on the brakes! Spend time with the Lord, praying and studying His Word. Watch for Him to give the green lights of encouragement you need to get through the day, and pass those on to others. When it comes to that tricky yellow light, there is a balance to be found. At every crossroads, look both ways. If the timing is right and you are maintaining a safe speed, proceed with caution. Where are you guilty of taking shortcuts that aren't so short after all? You may already know, but if you don't, just ask the Lord. With love and a longing for your best, He'll tell you.



Rebecca
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Wednesday, January 19, 2011

Mom's Tip of the Day #139

Mom's tip of the day

Don’t be so hard on yourself—don’t try to do it all. You simply can’t. And believe it or not, no one expects you to. ~from Baby Boot Camp
 
Rebecca
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Thursday, January 6, 2011

How Perfectionism and Procrastination Affect Your Relationship with Jesus

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It has always boggled my mind how good habits are so difficult to develop and bad habits are so easy to acquire! Maybe it's because bad habits "happen" to us, but we have to "happen" to good habits in order to make them stick! Author Marla "FlyLady" Cilley candidly admits her routines took months to become habits. Perhaps that's why so many people love the FlyLady and her wonderful website! She isn't ashamed to share that her good habits took a great deal of effort, and therefore, a great deal of time.

Unfortunately, our culture places a premium on speed. The battle cry is, "Get 'er done!" When our homes or our schedules don’t fall into perfect order immediately, we are quick to declare ourselves failures. But the truth is not everything can be popped in the microwave. Good habits will not be had at the drive-thru window. Nope...sometimes we are going to have to find a place to park before we go anywhere else!

Did you know your relationship with Christ can suffer from that same perfectionist mentality? Oh, believe me--it can! See if this scenario sounds familiar: You decide that you want a deeper walk with the Lord. So you begin reading God’s Word, praying more, and looking for ways to serve Him. After a mere few days of this resolve, you still aren’t the Christian you want to be. Life crowds in with its dirt and clutter: secret sins, favorite hurts, and familiar fears. Your resolve is shaken, and once again, you find yourself feeling defeated. What then?

Or this scenario: Trying to establish the habit of a daily quiet time. Dear readers, not only does this take daily determination, it must stand up to daily interruption! Whether it is your kids, your husband, or simply your own wandering mind, this is where the enemy will fight you the hardest. Will you fight back? Or will you say, "Well, there's no way I can have a decent time with the Lord today. There's too much going on. Or, I need my rest. Or, The kids are already up and going crazy. Or, I'll do it later."

When I battled perfectionism with my quiet time, the Lord reminded me of one boy, two fish, and five barley loaves. I hate to think if I had been there and had anything to do with that day! I would have immediately dismissed that child's lunch because it wouldn't have been enough. But not Jesus. He knows it is never going to be enough. That's why we need Him. When it comes your quiet time, there will never be enough time. There will never be enough energy. There will never be enough focus. There will never be enough holiness. That's why whatever we bring to Him is just loaves and fishes. He does the multiplying. He makes sure there is enough.

Maybe the tendency to perfectionism is rooted in not fully understanding the Grace of God. But we don’t have to be perfect to please Him. He loved us first! That undeserved love washes over our sin with the grace of forgiveness and the healing power of a Father’s favor. Whether it is our homes or our hearts, there is nothing we can do without Him. Surrender your imperfections to the power of the perfect Savior. He will strengthen your weak resolve, heal your hurts, and dismiss your defeated mindset. Give Him your loaves and fishes: Got 30 minutes? Great! Only got 5 minutes? Give them to Him anyway!

The FlyLady says, "Housework done incorrectly still blesses your family." So then, it makes sense to me that a quiet time done imperfectly will still bless your heart. :)

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Wednesday, November 24, 2010

For Wherever You Have Been, And Wherever He Is Taking You

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From time to time, my husband and I will surprise our children with an unexpected trip. We pack their bags behind closed doors. One of us instigates a diversion while the other sneaks the luggage into the back of the van. With Academy Award-winning nonchalance, we announce that we need to go somewhere. It’s usually not until we turn onto the Interstate that they begin to ask: “Hey, where are we going?”

Rich and I have surprised the kids with a visit to see their cousins who live in a neighboring state. One frosty winter weekend we drove a couple of hours away and stayed overnight in a hotel that had an indoor swimming pool. There are plenty of ways to surprise the kids closer to home, as well. Once the children thought they were going to the grocery store, and instead, we went to get fast food and see a movie. The element of surprise makes everything more fun!

On a recent outing, my nine-year-old realized we were navigating roads that he’d never before seen.

“Where are we going?” he asked.

“You’ll see,” his dad smiled.

My son settled back happily into his seat and grinned. “Thanks, Dad,” he said, “for wherever you’re taking us.”

My children have come to the place where they realize that wherever Daddy is taking them, it will be a good thing. It doesn’t have to be revealed to them during the journey. They’ll understand the details once we arrive at our destination. Because of our proven track record, they can rest in the assurance that their parents have taken care of everything: pajamas, toothbrushes, even swimsuits. After all, it’s no surprise to us that the hotel has an indoor swimming pool--we’re the ones who planned the trip!

Thanksgiving beckons us to spend an extended weekend dwelling in thankfulness, providing the perfect opportunity for reflection. As I ponder my Christian journey this year, I have to question my own spirit of gratitude. Certainly, I’m thankful for the multiple blessings that the Lord has mercifully heaped upon my family and me. But can I continue to offer praises of thanksgiving for everywhere my Father took me? Or do I just thank Him for the places I wanted to go?

Do I thank Him for health but withhold praise for a two-week bout with pneumonia? Do I raise my hands high in gratitude for writing opportunities but keep my arms tightly crossed when I consider the number of articles that were rejected? Do I praise Him for spiritual victories yet at the same time fail to mention my appreciation for the inner struggles that nearly devastated me? Do I childishly reserve my standing ovation for the trips by the drive-through window and yawn at the bounty bought with seed, time, and harvest?

As I look back over the past year, I see some definite surprises between the on ramp of 2003 and the exit up ahead. Billboards promised cheap eats and rest stops, but there have been many delays due to construction. When my grandmother died earlier this year, I thought it was one trip for which I was prepared. My family had been expecting Mammaw’s death for years, even praying for it, asking God to take her home as she languished in a nursing home. Rather than breezing along in the fast lane, I found myself in the middle of a congested thoroughfare on which grief and guilt collided and traffic came to a standstill. As I give thanks this year, can I go beyond thanking the Lord for a godly grandmother to thanking Him for the things about her death that I cannot understand? Can I thank Him for the profound heartache that I experienced? Can I thank Him for the things about our relationship that can never be changed?

In everything, give thanks. Thank God for the bumps in the road. Thank Him when the map is unreadable. Thank Him for car trouble. After all, doesn’t your Heavenly Father have a proven track record? Settle back in your seat, child of God, and thank Him for wherever you have been--and for wherever He’s taking you.*

Rebecca
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*This article by Rebecca Ingram Powell was originally published in the November 2003 issue of ParentLife magazine (LifeWay Christian Resources)

Thursday, November 11, 2010

Hoping You Get Caught!

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One of the best things about the Pure In Heart Conference is that I get to serve alongside my daughter Danya. We make a pretty good team! A few years ago, Danya served as a contributing author for the Bible study I wrote on the book of Ruth: Get Real! Embrace the Reality of Ruth.   Today I'm sharing an excerpt she wrote for Get Real!  (This was written when she was 15 years old.)




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Have you ever broken something made of glass? Glass is strong, but once something hits it, it shatters into a million pieces. I dropped a glass cup once while unloading the dishwasher, and it broke into several pieces. Now, imagine a glass jar sitting on top of a refrigerator, filled to the brim with

Friday, November 5, 2010

Weekly Wrap-Up: A Sweet Reward is on the Other Side of the Wall

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Okay, Weekly Wrap-Up friends--I have a special message for y'all today. It's kind of a message from the past...from my past...that popped up again just a few days ago. Let me explain.

Before the school year began, I was getting the boys' books together (Over the summer, I keep my curriculum and other books stashed in a closet), and I came across a devotional book that I used many years ago when the kids were little and I was just starting out homeschooling. The title of this little gem is Bread for each day ; 365 devotional meditations. (You can get it on Amazon for .04--yes, four cents!) The copyright is 1962, so it's an old book, but it contains so many valuable truths! When I rediscovered it, I decided that the boys and I would use it together this year. We have really enjoyed it. Well, last week, as we were having our devotional time together before we started school, I opened the book to the day's reading, entitled, "A Sweet Reward." I saw that I had underlined a few things, and I had written a note on it, way back in 1998. Then, my children were 6, 4, and 1. (That was a whole different world. Days were long. Boys were short. LOL.) The passage for the day was Proverbs 11:11-18. The meditation verse was, Be ye strong therefore, and let not your hands be weak: for your work shall be rewarded (2 Chronicles 15:7). Let me share an excerpt from the actual devotion text with you:

The story is told of a woman who had a rare rosebush. She worked over it for weeks, but saw little or no results for her labor. One day she observed a crack in the wall and upon investigation found a small shoot of the rosebush running through the crevice. When she went to the other side of the wall, she found roses blooming in splendid beauty and her labor rewarded. Some of us, too, work year after year seeing little if any result, but we are not to be discouraged, for our work is truly blooming. However, it may be we shall only see its luxuriant growth when we get on the other side of the wall!
The line I have underlined above is one that I had underlined in the book. Out to the side, I had written: This passage rings in my heart today as further encouragement from God that I am to "press on" with homeschooling. Thank you, Lord, for my "precious seeds": Danya, David, and Derek.

Well, moms--I'm a crier, and I just wept my way through sharing that day's devotional with my boys. I rejoiced remembering how every step of the way along my homeschooling journey, the Lord provided encouragement. Sometimes I didn't know how much I needed it until He gave it to me. And sometimes--oh, you know those times!--I was desperate to hear from Him that I was to press on.

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It is indeed a sweet reward to see the other side of the wall. Today, I already am able to see so many rewards from the investment I made in my children. And I continue to press on, because I'm not finished! Some days, you just have to roll up your sleeves and say out loud, "I'm going forward." And just go!

Homeschool Mom, may you see your own roses blooming today, and if you can't see them just yet, may you somehow catch the scent of their lovely fragrance, wafting its way over the wall.


Rebecca
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Thursday, October 28, 2010

Human Resources Are Key For Homeschooling



Every homeschooling mom needs several key people she feels comfortable calling on when the going gets tough.

You've got your curriculum, consumables, and manipulatives. Books line the shelves, and your supply drawer is stocked. So far, your year is going along smoothly. But could it be your homeschooling toolbox lacks the most valued resource of all, human resources?
A veteran homeschool mom. When my first baby was born, my husband and I lived eight hours away from our moms. I needed mom mentors who had been through the baby years and come out safely on the other side! I sought these moms in my church and quickly connected with a gal who had three kids under nine years old. I figured with three kids, she had probably experienced anything I would be going through with my little one, and I was right! From mastitis to milk allergies, she always had the answer when I called.

A veteran homeschool mom is one who has been through the tough times of fielding grandparents' questions and the stares of nosy neighbors. She has survived phonics, the phoenix, and sesquipedalophobia (uhm...hello? Fear of long words! LOL). She can handle your occasional freak-outs because she has been there. She made it--you will too.

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A mom like you. I've talked quite a bit on this blog about my friend Sandy, and I'm sure some of you feel as if you know her (and some of you do! LOL). But it has made all the difference in the world to have a friend right here on the journey with me. There is no one who understands you like another homeschool mom. She knows what it's like! She knows what you do all day, and she knows why you do it. While there's no doubt that cyber friends are great, the fact remains that you need to connect personally--with a real, face-to-face support group of homeschooling moms who can actually look in your eyes, hug your neck, and sit across a table from you. And your kids need their kids.

A team of community advisors. Check out this list:
  • The public librarian. Public libraries know homeschoolers well these days! Connect with a local librarian and get the help you need to pull together enrichment supplies for your studies.
  • Your pastor. When my family announced plans to homeschool, we were considered radical by the sweet church we attended who had never really known anything about homeschooling. There were lots of questions, and even some "tsk-tsk's" from well-meaning folks who thought we were "cheating" our children, LOL. One Sunday, our pastor was using a sermon illustration from the life of Supreme Court Justice Sandra Day O'Connor. He paused and mentioned that O'Connor was homeschooled during the early years of her education, looking in the direction of my husband and me with a smile. In doing that, that precious man put his stamp of approval on our choice. Very cool.
  • School teachers. There are a lot of school teachers, both public and private, who will serve as great resources for you. I certainly learned that when Danya and I were wading through Latin. Having a few teacher friends also helped when we headed toward senior year and college entrance exams and all the mind-boggling stuff that goes with that.
  • Grandparents. From coaching baseball to teaching languages and economics, my kids' grandparents have been very involved and so supportive of our decision to homeschool. I've been so grateful for their support, from the first day to graduation day!
Carnival of HomeschoolingHuman resources are key in all of life, but especially in homeschooling! Take care to prayerfully seek out those who would encourage, inspire, and support you in your desire to successfully do that thing you do: teach your children at home.

Rebecca
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Thursday, October 21, 2010

Servanthood 101: Every Mother Is A Teacher

Some call it fall. Some call it Autumn. When I was growing up, we called it "back to school," and it was my mother's favorite season. As a high school teacher, she certainly enjoyed summer vacation, but she eagerly anticipated the return to school each year. She relished her profession and welcomed the season of its arrival in the same way she greeted her students: ready to teach, ready to give, and ready to applaud.

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On the other hand, as a student, I dreaded the onset of fall in the same capacity that my mother welcomed it. I became apprehensive at the first indication of summer's end: an empty bottle of suntan lotion, a torn flip-flop, or the fading of fireflies. Summer was always too short. It seemed I barely blinked my eyes before the slightest whisper of an autumn breeze was huffing down my neck and I was back at school. I was the student who sat watching the clock, waiting for the bell to ring, and longing to escape the confines of the classroom. The right instructor went a long way in easing my transition from the lazy, crazy, hazy of summer to the readin'-writin'-'rithmetic of the school day.

Once you enter the season of motherhood, you become a teacher. Isn't it a comfort to know that God has perfectly paired you with your little one? You are the right instructor for your child. Whether you are an educator by trade, a home schooling mom, or not--you are your child's teacher. The very nature of the relationship between mother and child is that of a teacher and a student.

Often our family will sit down to play a board game together. If the game is one that the children haven't played before, I will get out the rules and try to explain it to them. It never fails that they will become frustrated trying to understand the rules without playing the game. "Don't tell us how, Mom," they insist. "Show us how!"

I realize then that while I may feel I need to explain something to the nth degree, my children learn best when I show them. Even Jesus, who used a variety of teaching methods, including sermons, parables, and simple conversations, is best known for teaching by example. He wordlessly instructs us in parenting when we look at His life.
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