So, how does a parent know when to allow a child to quit or back off, and when to step in and help a child to simply refocus his efforts? After all, for many children, music and dance lessons, along with participation in sports, have not been merely perceived as activities but as investments.
Joyce Pelletier, a Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor (LCPC) from Portland, Maine, encourages parents to take a good look at their parenting goals and the goals of their child by asking themselves these questions:
How is this activity going to impact my child’s career in the future?
Does he really have the makings of a professional musician/athlete/performer?
Do his teachers or coaches believe there is a gift?
Why does he want to drop out?
Does he love the activity but hate the instructor?
Does he feel bullied by the team?