Friday, September 10, 2010

Weekly Wrap-Up: A Divine Appointment?

My friend Sandy and I have been working together on a project for a few weeks now, and so we have moved our infamous "teachers' meetings" to a booth at a nearby Chick-fil-a where we are literally taking up time and space for several hours. This past Tuesday, a mom and her preschool-aged daughter came in and sat close to us. They were having a great time together, engaging in conversation, really having a lot of fun. Since Sandy and I are just now getting used to the fact that our girls have graduated, we were enjoying watching them while we remembered some of the things we used to do with our kids when they were little. Some of our best memories, of course, revolve around the days we spent with our kids in homeschool. So we were talking about some of those kindergarten activities, field trips, and books we enjoyed.

As the mom and her little girl got up to leave, she stopped by our table.
"I couldn't help but overhear you talking about school," she said. "My daughter is going into kindergarten next year. Could you tell me about the school up the street? Is it a good one?"
So we told her that we didn't know anything about that school, that we had homeschooled our kids.
She hesitated, then said, "I've thought about doing that."
Sandy smiled and said, "We have loved it."
And then this mom says, "Well, I'd like to, but my daughter is really social, and she needs to be around other kids."

Honestly, I am the first to say that homeschooling is not for everyone. But if you are thinking about it, and you want to tell me that your child is too social for it, then I take that personally, as though you are saying that my children are socially maimed because of our choice to homeschool. It is not a valid argument for backing away from homeschooling if the Lord is calling you to do it.
Sandy just laughed and said, "Our children are all fine. They got plenty of socialization through church and sports." We chatted for a few more minutes, and the mom said that she had been listening to us talk, and she thought we were teachers (hello? LOL), so she had just wanted to ask us about the local schools.

But there was just something about this mom, a hesitancy about her spirit, so I said, "You know, this just might be a divine appointment. Maybe homeschooling is something you should consider."

Then she said, "I would really like to, but my husband won't hear of it."


And then I told her this, which I firmly believe, "If you and your husband are not on the same page, it will not work."

If your neighbors think you're crazy, you can still homeschool.
If your family thinks you're crazy, you can still homeschool.
If your friends think you're crazy, you can still homeschool.

You will certainly miss their support and encouragement, but you can ignore the nay-sayers, pray for strength, and make new friends. If your husband, however, does not want you to do it, then you are setting yourself up for a house divided if you pursue your desires over his. But what if I really believe I'm called to homeschool my children? Then you need to continue to submit (yes, I said the s-word!), and leave any mind and heart-changing in the hands of the Lord. Easy? Nope. Necessary? Yep.

Well, that's my contribution to Kris's Weekly Wrap-Up! I'd love to hear from you today--tell me about any obstacles you have overcome in your choice to homeschool!

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Nicole said...

Great post! I am homeschooling my 13 year old son for the first time, with three other children still in public school (10th grade, 1st grade and kindergarten). He has a different learning style that the "school norm" and was struggling (although was still getting mostly B's). He asked me to homeschool. At first my husband did not appear to be 100% on board, for fear it would just take everything out of me to the point I neglected the rest of the family. But he quickly realized it was the best decision for my son. But had he not wanted me to do it, I would have looked for another alternative. It has turned out to be an amazing experience so far. There is the possibility I will homeschool the two little ones later on. We'll just wait and see what God says about these two.

Rebecca Ingram Powell said...

Thanks, Nicole!
That's a great story--you are a brave mom to have jumped into homeschooling with a 13 yo boy! :) I understand your hubby's concerns, but I'm so thankful that the Lord changed his heart! You will LOVE spending this time with your son. I have a friend who homeschooled her son for 6th -8th grade, and it was an incredible time of bonding for them--really cemented their relationship, and prepared him for his high school years. Thanks for sharing!

Ellen said...

Loved this post. I related to the woman's reluctance to talk about hs'ing with her husband. I felt that same way! But I prqayed about it, researched it, got my ducks in a row, took a deep breath (for a few months), and brought it up with my dh. And guess what?? He supported it! Four years later, we're still happily homeschooling.

Glad I found your blog!

Rebecca Ingram Powell said...

Hey Ellen,

I'm so glad you found my blog! And glad you are happily homeschooling! :)

Kris @ WUHS and Eclipsed said...

Great words of wisdom! And, for the record, I've met your kids. They are far from socially maimed. ;-)

Rebecca Ingram Powell said...

Thanks, Kris! :)

MissMOE said...

I couldn't agree more---if hubby is not on board--homeschooling will not be good for your family. Thanks for the great post.

Lori said...

Great post! I have grads and little ones. I just talked a women whose going to homeschool her 5 year old, and who now regrets not homeschooling her older two when she had thought about it years ago. I think that not understanding the "socializing" aspects of homeschooling deters a lot of families. Second on the list of deterrents is not feeling qualified. I would love to tell everyone that, in most circumstances, they can do it if they want to!!

Sherry said...

I agree that it is tough to homeschool when your family thinks you are "ruining" your child - but if your husband isn't on board it just won't work.

My parents (after 5 years of homeschooling) tell me all the time how bright and smart Emme is. Then they say "When will you let her go to 'real' school? You're ruining her life". *sigh* How do you think she GOT so smart? LOL


Rebecca Ingram Powell said...

Hey MissMOE, Thank you for your kind words! Glad you enjoyed the post!

Lori, I think you're exactly right--who feels qualified to even be a parent, much less homeschool??? We have to get past that and understand that, as the saying goes, "God doesn't call the qualified, He qualifes the called!"


I have been there, not with parents, but with friends. I had a friend tell me once that she thought my daughter would do well in though I was homeschooling because I thought she wouldn't do well in school? Lots of people do not understand this calling. Keep praying for your folks...ask God to open their eyes so that they will "get" it! :) And even if they never do, you will always have the peace of knowing that you did what He called you to do!

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