We interrupt this blog tour with an unexpected detour…
Due to technical difficulties, the previously scheduled stop on this tour with Lara at Moms of Faith has been postponed! However, Season of Change made an unofficial stop last night at the park where my sons have played baseball for the last six years! As some of the moms were looking through the book, the general consensus was that they realized it was time to talk to their kids about sex.
“Is that in there?” one mom inquired of the book.
“Sure is,” I replied. “Just look at the chapter called, ‘Boys and Girls are Different.’”
Now, in case you’re wondering, I do not tell you how to get down to the nitty-gritty of “Insert tab A into slot B” in your talk with your child. My husband had those initial, biological, let’s-define-these-terms talks with our boys, and of course, I talked with our daughter. But sex should be an ongoing conversation, and not just a one-time, big talk. Excuse me, I should have capitalized that: Talk, as in: The Talk. The Big Talk.
People often ask me when they should begin talking with their kids about sex. The best advice was given to me by a mentor when my kids were just toddlers. She said, “You want to be the first one to tell them. Then, everything else they hear will be weighed and measured against what you said.” So, when you tell your kids first, you become, in their minds, the sex expert. LOL!
Truthfully, for our kids, life is interrupted by an unexpected detour into growing up—with plenty of technical difficulties! How will they figure it out? How will they know which way to go?
A few years ago, I visited New York City. I had heard so much about it, and I had always wanted to go there! As we got closer to the date of the trip, however, I got a little panicky. You see, even though I had always wanted to go there, the closer the actual trip got, the more I wasn’t so sure about going.
Then I remembered that I had a friend from college, Keith, who lived there! I called him to let him know that my husband and I were going to be in town. He picked us up at our hotel the morning after we arrived, and he showed us the town! The subways were a cinch to navigate with a seasoned New Yorker at our side! Hailing a cab was a breeze! Keith told us some things about the culture and the people that were much different from life in Tennessee. He was able to make us comfortable and help us feel right at home, because he used to live in Tennessee, too, and he remembered what that was like. But now, living happily in New York, he wanted us to see all the things he loved about it.
When it comes to growing up, you are your children’s tour guide. You point the way when there is an unexpected detour. You help them feel comfortable and right at home in their changing bodies and developing minds. You help them navigate their way through a lost culture by offering a Christian worldview.
You’re the expert—because you’ve been there.